Goal Setting Series: What could hold you back?

Goal Setting Series: What could hold you back?

What Could Hold You Back?

It’s been so great reading all of your comments on the goal setting series so far. I really do wish that is helping you in your goal setting for today, tomorrow and the new year. So far we have covered that What, Why, Giving your goals a facelift, and daily practices to achieve your goals. What’s important to remember (to ensure you keep going), despite all the steps and strategies, you will still have brief moments of self-doubt. It’s important to know that this happens to everyone. We’ve all failed or stalled on our goals at one point, for some of us it’s been a vicious cycle.

Have you noticed a pattern?

Have you noticed the same self-dialogue?

Or the same excuses that you normally make to help you stall?

On Thrive Rally, we will be talking about the things that people normally do and/or say to stall yourself and sometimes make us quit our dreams and what you can do today to turn that around.

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 Your Lack of Action

“There isn’t enough time in the day”

“I’m too tired”

“I’m mentally and physically exhausted”

“There is just too much to do”

“How can I balance work and my side passion”

“I never have any energy; feel lack of motivation”

Do these sound familiar?

I think I’ve said several or all of the above during several phases of my life. I believe we all know deep down what stories we tell ourselves to hold ourselves back. Some of us are afraid to begin because it feels like you are given in to this dream of yours and fearing that it won’t be successful. In addition, some of these stories are not really stories at all but you are hurting yourself with your daily routine.

Quick Story:

One of my constant stories/truths I would say to myself is I never have enough energy. I felt this way for years and for this reason, stalled on my goals, FOR YEARS! Did I do anything about it? Did I make any changes to make my dreams a reality? Not until this year. It finally hit me that if I wanted to be successful and I wanted Thrive Rally to thrive, I need to work on myself. I few changes I’ve made was cutting all the extra coffee throughout my day (I drank about 3 espressos a day), I cut drinking coca cola from my diet. Cutting all this extra caffeine from my diet alone has allowed me to sleep faster and have more quality of sleep. I’ve cut eating rice Monday through Friday and started adding vegetables to my diet.

These are little stepping stones to being the person I truly want to be. Sure, there are definitely more things I could be doing to bring more energy to my life but the point is I realized there was a problem and if I wanted to feel better, I needed to make changes.

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I created a whole work book for all the steps and strategies to help you reach your goals. MORE tips are provided on the work book! Get it now!

We all made these stories or truths our reality but what some of us fail to remember is, you CAN change your story. You CAN decide to be a different person. A person that decides to not be their story but work towards the person you truly want to become.

November’s series was all about clarity and self-discovery, I created a clarity worksheet to help you see what areas might need some work in your life. If your needing some help with this or just wanted a quick reminder, you can grab the worksheet here.

 

Your Lack of Decision

“I don’t know what to do”

Confusion is another monster that kills your dreams. Another one of the things that made me stall over and over again.

This was one of the main reason, I decided to hire a coach. I felt overwhelmed and confused on my dreams to start a business and felt I needed help with clarity.

After several sessions, you start to realize that you have the answers all along. When I am muttering an idea in my head and I am not sure how to act on it, I would stay in this place for days or even weeks. Some of us (most of us), feel that since we are “thinking” about an idea but we are still “doing” something but you’re not, your stalling.

I know for myself, I kinda loved being in the state of confusion because it felt as though I was “working” towards my goals and just wanted to make sure I was making the best decision. Being a perfectionist didn’t help me either. “What if I look stupid?” What if it’s a bad idea?” What if no one signs up?”

Though these thoughts linger at my head when I’m trying something new, I still go for it anyways. Why? Because you NEVER know unless you try. You will NEVER get better unless you start now.

This is an affirmation that I pretty much say to myself EVERY SINGLE DAY:

I am learning and things will only get better from here Click To Tweet

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I created a whole work book for all the steps and strategies to help you reach your goals. MORE tips are provided on the work book! Get it now!

Routines

Our daily routine can either help us or break us when it comes to achieving your goal.

Believe it or not but arriving at work at 7 am putting your bags down and going to get a cup a coffee (your 2nd cup today) is an imprinted routine. It’s hard to break because this has been your routine when you arrive to work for the last 5 years.

Here’s another, when you arrive home from work, you go straight to the fridge to snack on anything you can find to munch because you had a light lunch (10 min lunch because there are just SO much to do) and have no idea what to make for dinner and then wonder why you can never seem to lose weight.

I’m sure if you look back on your day, you can see some areas that need some improving. Sometimes it’s just changing the routine to another. Instead of putting my bags down and grabbing a coffee, you can go get water instead or tricking your brain and getting that decaf instead to satisfy the taste.

Self-awareness is crucial when trying to figure out what are some of the things you say and do that don’t help you with your goals.

Do an experiment with yourself. Write down or put it in your phone all things you do for a day. Try monitoring this for a week. Sometimes you don’t realize a bad habit until you look from the outside in. Then start thinking about how these bad habits are affecting your dreams and the small steps you can start doing now to breaking those bad habits.

Loving the Goal Setting Series so far?

I created a whole work book for all the steps and strategies to help you reach your goals. MORE tips are provided on the work book! Get it now!

Next Steps

I hope this post helps you realize that anything is possible. I hope that it provides some clarity when looking back at our daily routines and the things we tell ourselves.  It’s all about being self-aware, deciding that changes need to be made while remembering your why.

It’s important to be strategic and knowing in advance how you normally fight against yourself to finally be the person you want to be.

Once you’ve assessed all that you normally do and say to hold yourself back, then write down what you are going to do when these thoughts come up or what other patterns you are going to start doing to help you get to the right path. Let this document be a motivator for you when you have those little bumps on the road.

What is currently holding you back? What story or reality do you cling to, to not take that next step? What are you going to do now to change this? Please let me know in the comments below.

If you didn’t know, we just started a new Facebook group to continue the conversation and help get you started on your goals! Want to be part of the Rally? Click here and sign-up… I would love for you to be part of the community!

Join the group and you will put into the drawing to win a FREE 2018 goal planner. Winners will be advised on 12/17/2017 through the Facebook group! Click here to sign-up.

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12 Comments

  1. Nadene
    December 18, 2017 / 7:16 am

    Another very helpful post. I get stuck on priorities, having time etc

  2. December 18, 2017 / 7:27 am

    You are so right with everything on this post. The confusion-monster hits me the most. I’m glad you got a coach. They tend to make you think of things that wouldn’t cross your mind, and a coach I had asked good questions.

  3. December 18, 2017 / 9:24 am

    Great points! My routine has slowly allowed chores, house stuff, time with friends to overpower blog time! I’ve been feeling that frustration of my priorities being misaligned. Great tips here. This series is great!

  4. December 18, 2017 / 9:52 am

    Great advice! I’m going to have to pay attention to how I’m “talking to myself”!

  5. December 18, 2017 / 11:29 am

    So good! I can’t even count the times I told myself I would change things once I had more energy. It especially makes me laugh to think I said that before having kids. You are so right, though. Knowing it’s true doesn’t help if you’re doing nothing to try to change it. Thanks for the encouragement!

  6. December 18, 2017 / 8:31 pm

    “Confusion is another monster that kills your dreams.” Oh my gosh – so true! I love this post, especially the part about routines. I’m always surprised when I notice a routine I developed unintentionally. It’s fun (but sometimes hard!) to create routines that help push us toward our goals. Thanks so much for the post! An enjoyable read. 🙂

  7. December 19, 2017 / 7:13 am

    This post is so helpful. I find that I get overwhelmed, risking the point of burnout, and I stop taking myself seriously so I stop trying. Appreciate the encouragement and support, I’m hoping 2018 is the year my mindset truly changes!

  8. December 21, 2017 / 8:56 am

    This is awesome because this post is echoing the book I’m reading right now! Thanks for helping to solidify some thoughts in my brain!

  9. December 21, 2017 / 9:30 am

    Love this. I can really resonate with the routines. I love your idea of writing your routines down to identify bad habits. I need to do this. I KNOW I have lots of bad habits that cause procrastination. I, like a lot of people, have always struggled with procrastination. I run my own blog so that already entails a lot of social media, as you know, but I feel like I spend TOO much time on social media and research and I need to have more of a clear focus! That along with other things!

  10. December 21, 2017 / 4:30 pm

    Routines! I am a creature of habit and if my routine gets thrown off (think sick kiddo, car troubles, etc.) then I feel like I am visibly watching my productivity deteriorate. Once I noticed this was my go to, I’ve tried really hard to be more flexible in my mindset of what my day should look like. It has helped, but it’s something I still have to catch myself. Remind myself that yes my day didn’t go as planned, but I can get back on track.

  11. December 22, 2017 / 2:06 pm

    Such a great post! We often jump to ideas like “I just don’t have enough time” or “I’m not disciplined enough” to rationalize why we don’t meet our goals. I’m realizing that I DO have enough time, but I am not making good use of it (even though I used to!). That’s a signal to me that something else is going on — I’m struggling with indecision and routines. I think I need to assign tasks to specific time slots each week and then stick to it!

  12. December 26, 2017 / 8:03 am

    It’s essential to replace bad and undesirable habits with doable, positive ones. If we don’t replace our bad habits, they will resurface and live with us forever. Loved this series 🙂

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